One of the silent killers in many marriages today is the absence of boundaries. We often convince ourselves into thinking they are unnecessary in marriage. Many times, I hear spouses say they don’t want to appear controlling or they don’t want to be controlled. I’ve even heard married couples say, “I should be able to do whatever I want!” Yet the truth is we surrendered our “want” the moment we made a vow to “become as one” with someone else. Continue reading “Setting Boundaries in Your Marriage”
How to Build Teamwork in Your Marriage
Since the beginning of my husband and I’s relationship, we’ve had this unintentional motto that has stuck with us over the past eighteen years, “Together is Better!” Honestly at first we found it silly, but we kept saying it after we’d complete some task together, like it was our victory chant. Before we knew it, our silly little saying started to sound profound as it proved itself over and over true. When we’re given a task or presented with a decision, we instinctively look to each other. Still we have those bad days on the “marriage field” where we’d like to call each other out on performance-because every team has those days. Nevertheless, we have put considerable effort into working as a team over the years and still do; whether it’s in ministry serving, at home cleaning, completing projects, discussing our budget or even being in agreement on how we should discipline our toddlers. This doesn’t mean we have lost our individuality or identity in each other. On the contrary, because we are different people it has greatly enhanced our success as a married couple. We realize we are bringing more to the playing field of our marriage life than if we were replicates of each other’s skills and talents. When you’re a teammate to your spouse you… Continue reading “How to Build Teamwork in Your Marriage”
How to Nurture the Friendship in Your Marriage
My husband and I have been best friends for seventeen years. We’ve been by each other’s side through tragedies, victories and everything in between. We’ve watched each other grow and we’ve helped mold each another into the adults we are today. Like every relationship we’ve had our ups and downs. They’re times we feel like we’re in love with each other and other times where we struggle to like each other.What gets us through the tougher times is our relationship with God and putting His Word into practice. There are clear principles we can find on marriage in the Bible that we can use to save the friendships within our marriages.
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